Sometimes we seem to forgive means to be weak, surrender or to agree with the other person. But that's a mistake. Knowing how to forgive is very important for our own welfare, because it means that we let go of anger, resentment or even hatred to return to feel at peace with ourselves.
Anger has an important role because it informs us of a possible injustice and prepares us for a reaction in defense of our own person or someone we. So it is important to verbalize anger or other emotion that someone has caused in us by their behavior or their words.
We can say: " It hurts, you tell me ... "or" I hurt when ... " .
However once it expressed emotion and past time does not suit us keep the negative emotion within us because we cause unnecessary discomfort to us and people around us.
Once past the time is important to realize that to feel good again we need no apology from the other person, we need to convince or something. Our own well-being depends solely on ourselves. We may decide not to upset because what made us angry is the problem of the other and not from us. In this way we take responsibility for our emotional well-being does not depend on anything or anyone except our own thoughts.
Forgiveness does not mean agree or agree unjust behavior, it means recognizing that the other person acted in a certain way that made us feel angry, Rage, hatred etc.. but the power of our well-being is knowing that we can only move us and that nobody is perfect, we all act in the best way we can and that our own well-being depends only on ourselves.
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